Daily Life

Vanessa was a mess after dinner one night so I put her next to the sink to clean her up. It wasn't long before she had crawled in and was playing in the water.


Vanessa gets cabin fever worse than anyone I have ever met. She wants to be outside all day long, even in 90 degrees plus and 60% humidity. She stands at the door and begs or tries to crawl into her stroller.

Needless to say, we either go to the park early, or do water activities.

Splash Pad video...per Grandma's request

Vanessa spends most of her time doing just this. Filling the bucket and dumping the bucket. She also watches the other kids a lot. A couple of times, kids have tried to steal her bucket. I've been quite proud of her. She doesn't get mean or mad, but she definitely holds her ground and will not let go. One time a little boy took the bucket when she wasn't paying attention. She just followed him and took it back like it was no big deal. She didn't try to hit or even make a noise. I like that she isn't a bully but she can defend herself.

Splash Pad

The ladies in the ward introduced me to this place. It's just a couple miles down the road and it's FREE! Bonus. It's like running through the sprinklers, but better.

My Favorite Food

Vanessa loves popcorn. She has loved it since the very first time her aunt Steph gave her a popcorn "puff." She finally has enough teeth to handle the whole "pop." I think she's in heaven.

Our current rain storm

This is the most intense storm we have had yet. It's crazy the amount of water that can come down in such a short amount of time. This is a little bowl right outside our patio. Notice the park bench, there is usually a place to put your feet ;)

The Beach

The sand is definitely her favorite but she likes the water now too.

Jon's First Day

It has officially begun. Doesn't he look official in his lab coat? He has to wear a shirt and tie or his scrubs everyday. He wears scrubs, but this day was picture day.

Getting Better All The Time

Vanessa just showing off more of her walking skills...excuse the messy floor

Occupation: Mom

I've always known I wanted to be a mother. And more than that, I've always known I wanted to stay home with my kids. I've kind of always felt like that was my mission in life. If I could be a mother and give it my best, the Lord would be happy with me. Every woman might feel that way, I have no idea but that's what I've always felt for me.
When Jon and I started talking seriously about having kids, it was with the understanding that I would stay home. We both knew that meant probably living with my parents after the baby was born and being completely dependent on student loans through grad school. Ironically, what I imagined to be harder was giving up all our free time and independence. That has been the easy part for me.
I feel judged all the time that I'm not working. It is most likely my imagination, but I can't help wondering if people think is she incompetent, or unqualified, or just plain lazy?
I often hear women say "I have to work" or "we need the money." Shouldn't this apply to me above all? Why does it even both me what other people think? I'm happy being at home, why do I feel all this imagined pressure to be working and helping out financially.
Jon has been so patient listening to me ramble about this for the past year. Finally, the other day he said to me. "I don't get it. I thought this was what you wanted? I thought this is what every mother wants." Hm, he's got a point. So why am I complaining?
I finally asked myself if I could somehow, possibly get a job making $100,000 a year or more, plus benefits, would I want it? The answer surprised me...not a chance. After all, money is only money. It never lasts anyway. But regrets and heartache, those would live with me for the rest of my life. Somehow knowing that if I could, I wouldn't, gave me a new confidence. I chose this and I'm happy, so who does care what other people think!
I am lucky to have such a supportive husband who wants me to be home as much as I do. And really, I'm lucky we can get student loans so that I can stay home. Sure it's a load of debt, but it's an investment in our future and in my kids. And I wouldn't change it for anything.

Random Happenings in Florida

A few nights ago, Jon and I were out walking by a lake close by. We were walking under a terrace of a building and I felt something fall on my chest. I stopped and looked around (under my belly and everything) but didn't see anything. I told Jon I felt something fall on me, "something big, like a lizzard." A minute later Jon made me stop walking and pointed out the white lizard that was running circles around my back and sides.

Did I mention there are lizards everywhere? All kinds. Black, white, green, brown. Especially after the rain storms.

The rain storms are fabulous. When it rains, it pours. It is definitely weather you wait out though, because they usually don't last too long. There is always lightening and thunder too. The best kind of storm.

At night, there are lots of toads by the lakes. It's just kind of weird to see these huge toads all over. Jon says the ones in Brazy were about ten times the size though (disgusting).

The ducks are ugly. They are a cross between a turkey, a vulture, and a duck. There is a lake directly across from our apartment so we get them coming over all the time. There was a family of baby ducks when we first got here though we haven't seen them in a while. Vanessa loved them! There was the mom and five ducklings. All the babies were black and ugly like the mom except one and he was yellow. Kind of funny that the "ugly duckling" was actually the cute one!

This is the last one I can think of right now, but it is a classic. You know how when you go to the beach, the people who wear the most revealing things are usually the ones who shouldn't? Well, while my mom was still here, we all went to the beach one day. There was a black guy who was abnormally large. I'm not kidding I think he is THE LARGEST man I have ever seen. He was also an exhibitionist. We decided he had to have some mental problems because he was laying on the wall facing the street (not the beach). He was actually facing a restaurant across the street. A restaurant that had an outdoor seating area. He would slowly lose his pants, down to his ankles! It was the grossest thing I have ever seen. I actually tried to get someone to stand with him in the background for a picture but my mom wouldn't let me. I just didn't think anyone would ever believe how large this man was. So needless to say, I have no picture and no proof. But it's probably better that way, right?

Cute Things Vanessa Does

I decided I needed to write some of these so I don't forget...

The other night, she when she woke up around 4am, I went in to get her back to sleep. I laid down next to her and she cuddled up next to me. I turned my head away so I wasn't breathing on her. She reached up and pulled my chin towards her until my forehead was touching hers. Then she closed her eyes and went to sleep.

A different night, I went in to check on her when she woke up and she was stuck between the mattress and the bed rail, standing straight up. It was actually really funny. I have no idea how she got that way.

She likes to go outside and go for walks in her stroller. She tries to climb in her stroller all the time. If we take her for a walk while it's hot though, she gets really ticked and wants out in about two minutes. So she cries when we won't take her out and then cries if we do. Explain that to a one-year-old.

She loves giving kisses. She has figured out how to close her mouth, most of the time. But she's very loving and very sweet.

When she gives hugs, she pats you on the back.

She squeaks all day. And lately, when she is whining, she whines like a little puppy. Her favorite animal is definitely a dog but I don't think she's ever even seen a puppy so this she thought up on her own. She just sounds like a puppy.

She walks in circles a lot. She'll start to go one way but then decide she really did want to stay where she was, so she walks back. Or I guess that is what is going through her head.

She loves to play with the door stoppers. She closes the doors, then flips the stopper until it comes off. She has also learned to pull the plastic cap off the stopper as well. We are constantly picking up door stoppers and caps and putting them back on.

She really likes people and smiles at everyone. But if they try to touch her, she shakes her head at them and either grabs my leg or snuggles into my shoulder. She does not like strangers touching her. Today she actually swatted a lady's hands away.

She finds dogs in books now and barks at them.

She loves to empty the bottom drawer of the changing table. It has all her pajamas and shoes. She likes to throw them all over and then sometimes she'll put them back. Just to throw them out again.

She has learned to quack like a duck. There are tons of ducks (ugly ducks) and she is fascinated by them.

She has the cutest giggle I have ever heard and she snorts a lot!

Some Random Pictures

Kisses for Dad

This picture needs some explanation. I found one of Vanessa's binkis and was giving it to her as you see here, and noticed at the same time that it was covered in hair. So that's my grossed out, oh, you can't have this face. And the pot, I really can't explain. She was just playing with them.

Vanessa Walking

This is a short video of Vanessa walking. And yes, I am bribing her with chips. Sour cream and onion actually and she loves them!

Walking

Vanessa's walking! Just decided today that she could do it. She's been toddling all over the place and she's darn cute.

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Jon and I watched this last night for the first time. I didn't even want to see it because I had heard it was political anti-military. Anyway, I loved it! I didn't think it was anti-military at all (they're mercenaries after all). It was all about greed to me. I thought it was such a cute love story. And, as everyone has said, amazing effects and graphics or animation, whatever the technical jargon is.

The Latest and Greatest

After Moab we had a birthday party for Vanessa with both the Bradys and the Purdys. It was about a week and a half early but we decided it would be more fun to have the family around than just the three of us. Vanessa thoroughly enjoyed her cupcake and opening presents. Thanks to everyone for all the sweet gifts. Unfortunately, we didn't take any pictures. We videoed it, but no pictures. Jon's parents have a bunch so we'll try to get some from them.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY VANESSA! Her actual day was May 20. Can you believe she is already 1?
Here are a few updates on Vanessa.
She has 4 1/2 teeth. The two bottom, her two fangs on top (our little vampire) and her front middle tooth has come through. The other one is close behind.
She is extremely determined and strong willed. I have no idea where she gets that from!
She is completely done nursing. I wasn't even really trying to wean her, it just happened. It was a combination of her always being so busy and my being pregnant, my milk just kind of dried up. It's bitter sweet but it is a nice break before the next one comes.
Still working on the sleeping thing. Two nights ago she woke up four times (about every two to three hours). She would instantly go back to sleep when I went in the room but she just wanted someone there with her. Last night she did really well again though and slept from 9-6. And then went back to sleep until about 7:30.
She is babbling constantly and can say a few words. She says mama, daddy, doggie, and baby. She can also quack and bark.

Moab...The Last Hoorah

We went to Moab with the Purdy clan for our last get together before heading across the country. We had a ton of fun.

Vanessa could have pushed her wagon around and hunted for rocks all day.

Delicate Arch...yes, we're there even though you can't see us


The wind was a bit cold and we weren't prepared for it our first day. Jon had to sacrifice his shirt to try to keep Vanessa a bit warmer. She was a trooper and did really well the whole trip!

Jon's Graduation

Let's see I guess we'll start back in April, when Jon graduated from BYU...


Good job babe! Vanessa and I are both so proud of you!

Florida

We're here! And unpacked...for the most part. I have no idea how we fit everything in this apartment but we did it. And I'm feeling generally organized. We have spent WAY too much though getting furniture and other accessories. It's worth it though right to live comfortably for two years?
Vanessa is having a bit of a hard time with the move. She's been throwing tantrums like a two year old and it's been kind of hard for me. I honestly don't know what to do. She understands most things but not everything so it's hard to know how to handle the situation. Sometimes I think she gets things and she doesn't, other times I think she doesn't understand but then later realize she completely did. The challenges of motherhood...what can we say?
All in all though, she has been a champ and she is such a doll. Everyone adores her everywhere we go. She is getting a little bit of a tan, even though I vigilantly put sunscreen on her like crazy.
She had her first visit to the beach. She LOVED the sand. She was okay with the water after a while but she didn't love it. She does love the pool though. The other day she just wanted to play on the steps and hold the bar. Jon and I weren't allowed to touch the step, or her, or the bar. It was actually kind of cute.
She loves being outside. We have to sneak out the door when she isn't looking to take out the trash or do anything outside. Otherwise she will scream that we didn't take her with.
She is stepping but not quite walking. She likes to "walk us." She holds our hands and takes us wherever she wants to go. She pretty much wants to do that all day. Sometimes if she wants to get from A to B and they're relatively close, she'll walk to it but usually she gets down and crawls. The most steps we've counted is 4, I believe.
Jon is happy to be moved in and ready to get down to business studying. He starts classes on Monday. He already knows of at least one test the first week and they have sent a couple emails telling them to be prepared for this lecture or that. It's going to be crazy for him. But he is so ready to get in and get done.
I am learning how to be a mom without all my family around. I'm trying to learn all the good deals here so we can save on groceries. I've decided to make our bread and save a few dollars there. Poor Jon and Vanessa, it may be interesting for a while.
The "cooking" baby is doing well. We are having a BOY. We had an ultrasound right before we left. Everything looks good and normal. I haven't found a doctor here in Florida yet, but I have a clinic in mind. I'm waiting to ask around at church a little. I also have a couple hospital tours set up so we'll see which I like best. Two of the three hospitals don't have private post partum rooms so that is a major downer and I'm already hugely biased in favor of the third option. I guess we'll give them all a look though. There is more to a hospital than private rooms, I suppose.
Anyway, I hope you are all doing well. I heard it snowed in Utah recently. Ouch. Pictures to come...but not tonight because Vaness is already sleeping and I still have to download them to the computer. Vanessa's room is also the office.
Oh, speaking of Vanessa's room. She slept in her own bed, in her own room from 9pm-5am last night. When she woke up, I got up to get her and ran smack into the wall. Then, as I walked into her room, she fell off the end of the bed. Ha! What a first night apart huh?! She was fine, the bed is close to the ground and she was turning to go feet first so she didn't hit her head. I think her sleeping away from me was harder for me than it was for her. I had nightmares about it all night until she woke up. I kept dreaming she was kidnapped, or lost, or hurt. I know, seriously, I'm pathetic. Anyway, she is transitioning well. She actually sleeps better with more room since she is such a crazy sleeper. We got her a full so it can double as a guest bed. So if anyone wants to come visit, we'd love to have you!

The Teeth

We finally got a picture of the teeth!